regret is OK by me.

I used to be among those that didn't believe in regret. REGRET IS A WASTE, is what I would say. For instance, one of my biggest "regrets" and "mistakes" was leaving Sarah Lawrence to transfer to, ahem, USC. "I should have never left, SLC was the place for me." But I would never be where I am today if I hadn't left. Granted, I'm not necessarily "anywhere" right now, kind of in between places and people, relationships and happiness...but regardless, I wouldn't give up the last few years. The people I've met and the experiences I've had were, and are, for the most part, amazing. Therefore, in the past I would say "regret is a waste." But what if it's not? Regret is a learning tool. Regret makes us question our decisions, which is a good thing, because sometimes our decisions are, lets face it, not the best choice. You can't always turn back, but sometimes you can. If you haven't let enough time pass, or if you DO let enough time pass- mistakes can be righted, decisions unturned. For those decisions that can't be changed, regret is a way of learning from our mistakes. Regret is not a bad thing, regret is not a waste. Regret is a learning tool and it should be embraced. Just remember, regret is not the same thing as wallowing. Wallowing in despair of our mistakes, refusing to move on, or change what we are unhappy with, IS A WASTE. So go forth, be amazing, learn from your mistakes and know that it is never too late to change or go back. Maybe the same path will not be available, and certain things are bound to be slightly different, but embrace it. The big important things in life are family, friends and love. And any 'regrets' pertaining to those people in your life can always be righted (save for timely or untimely death getting in the way). So decide who's important to you, know that you can right the wrongs in your relationships, and do it before it IS too late. Learn from your regret.

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